Why do stare downs haunt us forever and why is this point so important?
It illustrates something we each face and most of us don’t connect the dots.
When we do, we’ll stop trying to measure up to other’s standards. Standards of others that we set through how we’re influenced by their appearance of success. Our perspective on the appearance of others. And without realizing it, we use a different standard for ourselves. Often, we judge ourselves, gauging our inner cracks and faults without understanding these both are generic to most of us. We simply aren’t privy to those of others.
Because we experience our inside faults BUT without realizing it we compare it to the outside smooth gloss of others – while they do the same!
We measure and judge others against ourselves. It’s best to compare ourselves only to our current position/standard results. We can look back and see where we’ve been and the progress we’ve accomplished.
Comparing ourselves to others: 1) We see others’ visual struggles and progress, how it appears they’re doing while not knowing what’s going on in their inner struggles.
Carl Jung, when asked how one ought live, he responded if one wants to know that then join the Catholic Church where they tell you. In the real world, it’s live how we can live.
Living isn’t a sitcom. There are no easy answers, quick fixes, and success isn’t one size fits all. It’s live how we can. Do the best we can. Accept our slip ups, stumbles, and our learning curve. While doing all this – be kind. To ourselves and others. Everyone and everything.
We can think we know how we’d respond in a given situation; what we’d say, think and do. Even what we did do in a given situation. But circumstances are never exactly the same. All things are never equal. Even when they appear to be, they’re not!
That’s not the point! We’re here for a purpose: Accept – Forgive – Love. Ourselves and each other, everyone and everything. Like the sun, we start with us ourselves and radiate our energy outward!
See next week’s post for Living Full Tilt’s perspective from my experiences and encouragement by humanity’s giants.
Until next time,
Joe